PURPOSEFUL SUPPORT AND STABILITY/Rashea@LLO2 Academy
I cannot emphasize enough, as a Christian, a loving girlfriend, a woman, a mom and an entrepreneur... Your support system matters more than you think it does. Not only should you take into consideration the value and importance of your relationship but the value and validity of those in your core unit. Many relationships have failed not because of the couple but because of those the couple surrounded themselves with or did not surround themselves with.👀
Who you surround yourselves with as a couple &, also, as individuals will either stabilize your relationship or destroy it. Be wise in who and what you both surround yourselves with within your core. Everyone around you isn't core ready or core prone.
Q. What does that mean exactly?🙄💭
A. Being core ready or core prone means that you first are FOR those you support and surround, and then, you are for their mission. How can any facet of a relationship survive if they are always divided? It is impossible. Furthermore, being core ready or core prone implies you have the foreknowledge, understanding and wisdom to be influential and helpful to those you support and who support you.
Periodically, I encourage all of us to assess our circles. Have you ever seen a circle divided? No. Circles are created to be holistic, entire, harmonious and undivided in mission or intent.
Although their is individuality represented within a sphere, there is yet unity. Unity stabilizes the core. Right communication stabilizes the core. Commitment stabilizes the core crew, squad, team, group or unit.
You may not always agree, because you are individuals, but you do find common ground as a unit to maintain the harmony of the unit, family, friendship and/or mission. Get around and stay around couples and people who believe and model the importance and value of friendship within a relationship. If a couple within your sphere are always at odds it is because there is a lack of friendship within their relationship. If people within your circle are always argumentative or at odds, it is because there is a lack of friendship there.
Friendship is defined as: a relationship (of some sort), friendly relationship, close relationship, attachment, mutual attachment, alliance, association, close association, bond, tie, link, union, amity, camaraderie, friendliness, comradeship, companionship, fellowship, fellow feeling, closeness, affinity, rapport, understanding, harmony, unity. Reference: lexico.com
When or if these characteristics of a friendship are lacking, there is indeed a lack of friendship present. Again. You will not always see eye to eye at first, but you do work together to come to some kind of common ground to maintain healthy boundaries and a healthy unit.
If someone is counseling you out of what is good, they are not for you. People may surround you, but it doesn't always mean they support you or are for you. If you sense something is off with a relationship or the counsel someone is offering you, most times it's because it is. Stay clear of divisive advice that can lean to ruin.
Listen to the Holy Spirit within you, which we call instinct or intuition, the little small voice inside, something told me or that gut feeling. No matter who you surround yourself with, always let the Holy Spirit be the filter system within. Have a go to core that can be of help to you and you to them, but, also, go to God for the best counsel and support for all areas of your life and relationship together.
