BECOMING AN ADULT/Rashea@LLO2 Academy
Becoming an adult is not predicated on your family, friends, associations, the government or society. Becoming an adult is a natural proclivity to become your own person and to walk and flourish in your own strengths, overcome your own weaknesses and harness your own individuality. Being an adult begins with becoming an adult.
Becoming an adult is centered around you making more independent decisions aside from your parents or other adults that will establish a sense of independence and preferable preferences. Yes. Becoming an adult requires wise counsel, but those who counsel you are never to control you or manipulate your THINKING, DECISIONS OR ACTIONS.
Receiving sound counsel communicates, "I trust you enough to advise me without making my decisions for me." Wise counsel is to both give guidance and correction in love, but it is not to slander or to condemn another's faults or failures beyond redemption when in error. Becoming an adult is you accepting you have a personal decision to make, life to live and purpose to fulfill.
The Apostle Paul said, "When I was a child, I thought and spoke as a child. However, when I became a man, I put away from me childish ways of living, thinking and reacting to people, places, things and circumstances (1Corinthians 13:11)." Now was he speaking of a certain age bracket that society in various cultures consider a practical age to become an adult? OR was the Apostle Paul speaking of the inner awareness and understanding of a new stage he had come to which required an adult response in His life rather than adolescent behavior?🤔💭
We can continue to call ourselves adults, because we are a certain age and still act like children. OR we can actually decide to grow up and let our unforced right decisions predicate our level of maturity as adults and becoming adults. Let's just be honest. Some of you who call yourselves adults are really kids inside a grown ups body. Your body grew but the WAY you think did not.🤦♀️
You have parents DEMANDING their child grow up, but when they do just that you tell them to, "Slow down. You're moving to fast."🤦♀️ Bipolar are we?👀🤔💭
You cannot demand of a person what you restrict them from doing. You oppose their efforts from accomplishing adult decisions, because you cannot handle just how quickly they have grown up BEYOND what YOU perceived growing up to be at their AGE or YOUR OWN!😤 Parents and adults... are our children to blame for their lack of maturity, OR are we to blame for our lack of MATURITY and ability to see when our child have become responsible without us MICROMANAGING THEIR DECISIONS?
Do your children PATTERN your maturity or cringe at your immaturity? You cannot scream at your child for patterning the very thing they saw you do! That whole mindset of "Do as I say, but don't do as I do," DOESN'T WORK.
If you want your child to be responsible, then YOU BE RESPONSIBLE. If you want your child to make great decisions, then YOU MAKE GREAT DECISIONS. If you want your child to learn from their mistakes and improve their lives, then YOU LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES AND IMPROVE YOUR LIFE AND BEHAVIOR.
Do you know WHY children who become adults RESIST AND RESENT their adult parents? Children who become adults resist and resent their adult parents, because THEY MODELED THE VERY OPPOSITE OF WHAT THEY ENFORCED. We have parents who are resentful towards their adult children not always because they messed up in life, but because THEY CHOSE TO DO BETTER THAN THEM IN LIFE not always in status or stature but in CHARACTER.
Becoming and being an adult is established in CHARACTER not consumption of wealth, achievements and commodities. Becoming an adult is the presence of evolving from a child to an adult that can HANDLE and sustain a greater level of accountability, responsibility and dependability without reverting back to the state or stages of adolescent behavior. IT'S TIME TO GROW UP.
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