THE EPIPHANY OF I CAN'T/Rashea@LLO2 Academy
What is the epiphany of I can't. The epiphany of I can't is realizing and discovering that you actually can. Discouragement and doubt are the antagonists of believing you can and that you can do what it is you believe you can do.
You can listen. You can be faithful. You can be a wonderful spouse or partner.
It is all a matter of debunking the belief that you cannot. Sometimes, trying doesn't always lead to immediate victories, but don't let failure stop you from succeeding in your relationship. Relationships like anything else takes effort, time, awareness, healthy communication and understanding and a mutual commitment, but when both of you are willing to put in the time and effort consistently...you will have a happy and healthy relationship lifelong.
Healthy, happy relationships don't grow on their own. You grow them together. If your relationship is not growing and flourishing it could be the result of the I can't syndrome.
Now I agree, there are some things that neither of your should do, especially if what you are saying, thinking and doing are or could build a wedge between you. However, telling your spouse that you can't take the time to listen, or help around the house, or help with the finances or with the children or help them with their dreams or goals through your support... are all excuses. You can do all the above if and when you try.
Don't let laziness, a lack of interest, self-centerness and/or familiarity creep in. They are all breeding ground for the I can't syndrome. I can't is just an excuse to do what you can do some way some how.👀
Be fair. Be mindful that your time, effort and awareness of your spouse or partners state of being and doing can help advance not only them further along but you as a couple.
I can demonstrates selfless devotion. I can reveals mindfulness. It simply communicates that you care and are willing to help lighten the load.
Don't make excuses. Make the effort. Make time. Prioritize your spouse daily in your daily grind.
For married couples... Life was busy when you were dating, but you made time. Why? Because you wanted to make time for your spouse or partner no matter what was going on.
Although, your lives have changed a bit, ask each other and ask God to show you how to successfully incorporate dating each other with children involved or your career roles evolving. Communicate your concerns and stresses. Speak and listen with concern and understanding.
Don't downplay one another's concerns, roles or tasks because that can cause resentment. Listen and really hear your spouses heart and concerns. What is beyond your control take to God in prayer not your friends or family.👀 That is hurtful and can destroy trust and unity within your relationship.
Your spouse or partner is not your enemy. At least they shouldn't be. Your spouse or partner is apart of you. All that you say, do and think about them should honestly reveal that.
If you cannot trust your spouse to listen, tell you the truth or be there... You might be in an unhealthy relationship. Seek counseling if you cannot resolve your differences on your own. As you seek helpful insight, lay down your ego or insecurities and CHANGE.
All relationships don't have to end in a break up or divorce, if you catch the growing challenges, differences or concerns early. Stay on top of your home first not others. Water your own grass and tend to your own lawn and garden.
The epiphany of I can't is... Honey bee how can I help.
Rashea@LLO2
