Celebrating the Value of Womanhood/ The Importance & Evolution of Self Care- March 2025/ But I'm Happy Even If You're Not; Overcoming the Spirit of Toxic Grief- Rashea@LLO2 Academy
Choose to be happy, even if others around you are not. You don't have to be miserable. Misery often times is a choice.
If you want to be happy, God will give you relief. God will give you healthy outlets to produce and maintain happiness in your life. You're not miserable. You are encountering people who are miserable.
You are encountering people who are weighed down with life and trauma. You're encountering people who make it their personal mission to make you miserable. Misery loves company.
Nope. Tell misery, "I'm busy being happy."
I want to be happy. I choose to be happy with or without you, and that's okay. You don't need to be surrounded by a bunch of people or unhappy people to be happy. Spread the love as you go. Be kind, be brief and be happy.
Sometimes, moments of solitude just to hear your own thoughts is peaceful bliss. Break away from toxic grief. We all have moments where we feel sad inside, but sustained grief isn't good. Actually, sustained grief can become very toxic, troubling and harmful.
If you are suffering from grief, ask God to help you find the root cause. Sometimes circumstances trigger grief, but they aren't the root cause.
When did this grief begin? Did it begin sometime ago from other traumatic events in your life? Did you deal with those traumatic events effectively, or did you suppress them?
Punishing people for your grief won't cure the grief. It will only make matters worse. Being a pastor has taught me to be mindful of these challenges. Over the years, I have encountered people who suffer from traumatic situations.
My encounters has led me to years of prayer, consecration, scientific research and a personal study of the Scriptures. I have discovered that demons can't be counseled away. They have to be cast out by a devout believer who is under the anointing and guidance of the Holy Spirit.
Once you cast demons out who are tormenting the soul of an individual, you then can counsel the person. Demons make it difficult to counsel someone they are tormenting. They won't let them hear or see things clearly.
It takes God to heal a person suffering from grief and toxic grief. Moreover, that individual has to want to be set free from grief. If they don't, protect your peace and distance yourself from it and them, or you will be impacted in a negative way.
God wants you to be happy, even if others around you are not. Listen to me. You can't fix someone who doesn't want to get better.
Bitter people are usually broken people. They'll bring you down, if you let them. Don't let them. Moreover, don't let them blame you for their grief or challenges that you are not causing.
There is a biblical law concerning morning. 30 days. If you are still grieving after 30 days, it's not healthy.
Now I am not saying not to acknowledge what meant a lot to you in your life, but you still have to get up mentally and emotionally not just physically. We heal as we go. We grow as we heal by and by.
Holding on to grief can become dangerous to you and to others. If you know someone who is suffering from grief, don't ignore that insight. Pray. Encourage them to seek godly guidance. Encourage them to take up some healthy leisure that will help them heal from their grief.
Remember, there is always a root cause. So, what might appeared to have triggered their grief on surface, yet again, may not be the root cause. If they were already angry, depressed and suffering internally both mentally and emotionally, then the trigger point is not the root cause.
If people are resistant to seeking help, it would be wise for you to distance yourself from them and their irate yet subtle behaviors that are toxic and growing worse. Protect your peace. Protect your space. Protect your life.
You deserve to be happy, even if others are not.
Rashea@LLO2
