A HEALTHY NEED FOR YOUR SOULMATE/Rashea@LLO2 Academy
I was taught years ago that interdependence is the contrast of codependency. Interdependence is a healthy desire and need for your soulmates support, love and attention. Furthermore, interdependence possesses a level of independence within the relationship. You know your purpose individually but you collaborate and work together to help one another achieve both your individual purposes and your purpose as a couple.
Interdependency is realizing your need and desire for your soulmate is purposeful not selfish. It communicates, without manipulation or hindering them, I want us to do purpose and life together, because you complete me and I like having you around. You make me better. You make me fuller in spirit, soul and body.
Interdependence is a connection without intruding or being domineering. When you are interdependent you are confident in your individuality to some degree, but your soulmate adds value and meaning to your individuality. You realize, I am better, because of what you add or multiply to my life.
Interdependent couples are not only reliant upon each other but, also, reliant upon God in their individuality. God is the center of their lives as individuals and their life as a couple. God is kept involved and takes center stage in their lives to help maintain the balance within their individuality and their relationship.
Co-dependence is selfish and self seeking. It holds and withholds value and progress. Co-dependency says I need you to stay here and the only way you will advance is if I go with.
Co-dependency is overbearing and burdens instead of uplifting. It takes more than it gives. It's an unhealthy addiction of needing to be needed or wanted.
Co-dependency is the tell tale sign of insecurity. The couple both feels as if they have no sense of identity or purpose without the other. THAT is borderline dangerous and unhealthy.👀
Co-dependency is clingy. It is annoying. It can lead to frustration and resentment within the relationship.
Being a pest can lead to a mess. Be present and be warm without being a burden or overbearing. Be a friend without being a foe when you don't get your way.
Assess your relationship. See if you and your soulmate are interdependent or co-dependant? Work toward working out any kinks that can ruin the relationship.
If you are interdependent but are dealing with a co-defendant partner or spouse, OR if you are both a co-dependent partner or spouse, prayerfully communicate your concerns and take action to correct the challenges. If they refuse to change seek godly counseling. If they still refuse to change, you might need to prayerfully call it quits or take a step back until God can solve the situation.
The goal is interdependence. The goal is togetherness. The goal is being a reflection of purposeful commitment and connection between a male and female in a godly relationship.
Please Note:
These are general topics to help each couple assess their relationship. Remember that we have thousands of people and couples connected to the R&B@LLO2 platform around the world. So please do not allow offense to set in or feel you are being singled out, because you are not.🤭👍💯 We have to discuss these important topics, so that our relationships can be healed and can last with longevity.👍💯
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