THE WISDOM OF A MOTHER/Rashea@LLO2 Academy

Let me first start off by saying... Happy Mother's Day to every mom and grandmother. Motherhood is a journey. It has it's highs and lows; peaks and valleys. 

Motherhood is an everyday job that requires commitment, patience, endurance, faith, love and a willingness to grow with your children as they grow up and become their own person. I think to myself... 16 going on 17 and 9 going on 10🙃. Where did the time go?

A son and a daughter. My miracles for sure. I believe in miracles. I have 2 of them that call me mom.🙏🏽💕. 

To see the stages. To hear wisdom coming from them.👀💕 Wow! 

To see and to hear them decipher life through their own experiences. It is wise to listen without judgment. Correct bestowing mercy and grace, especially for some of the very things we ourselves do or have done.😕👀

Stand firm, but, yet, be gentle and kind. After all... they don't have it all together, and neither do we. Wiser? Yes. More experienced? In many things but not all. 

My children have taught me things over the years. They are alert. Aware. 

They are gifted. Talented. Human. And they are becoming adults little by little.

It is wise to give your children grace, mercy and space to become their own person. Check on them. See how their doing, but let them be their own person with their own mind, becoming not who or what you want them to be, but who and what God wants them to be. Amen.

Life requires flexibility and adjustments, because life is different for every household and parent. No approach is the same just like not every child or young person or even grown child (adult) is the same.😂 Well. It's true.🤣

We cannot parent every child the same way. Some children are easier to parent in areas and in different stages of their lives. Some require a firm hand of discipline and others just a good talking to. 

Some children grow into listening and others grow out of it.🙃 A praying parent is a winning and wise parent. You cannot, nor will you, as a mom and parent, be around your children all of the time. You have to trust that the values you instill in them overtime and the counsel you have given them over the years is enough to guide them in making the right decisions and turning out okay.

Some say I am too lenient in my approach to parenting. No. I am a parent, but I know how to be a friend to my children, while parenting.

Friendship with your children isn't a homeboy, homegirl relationship as a parent. Friendship is I am here for you, and you can come talk to me without me being overly critical of your thoughts, decisions and life, over ice cream or lunch.👀

I grew up around overly religious and critical parenting, and I never wanted that for my children. Yes, give your children faith in Jesus, but with balance. They still have a life to live.🤣 Come on!🤦‍♀️ No need to go religious mode with fire and brimstone.😂👀

I never wanted to be that critical parent who acts self-righteous only for my children to discover that mom is human just like them. When a parent does that... Children and young people become resentful and distant. Just be honest when you need to be, yet be a good parent who listens with understanding. Come on. Who doesn't need understanding?🤣

It is not my place to judge another parent. Nor is it your place to judge me. All our lives are different for different reasons. I am just here to offer my motherly advice and to share the stages of my own journey of motherhood from one mother to another mother.😂🤣. 

Hey. After 16 years... Hopefully this chat over coffee or brunch will help a sister out.🤣 Oh... motherhood.

Not to self:  When you are a good mom... Your children will trust you with their concerns, joys, fears, tears and the many stages of their lives. Your children won't be with you always. So, leave a legacy of truth, joy and understanding. Moreover, your children won't be children always. So, give them a beautiful legacy of a mother that was a wise woman and a good mom, who saw the lighter side of life and who listened without judgment.🤣😂

Moving forward...No. Not who I was then, but the woman and mom I am today and yet becoming in all stages of my children's lives and my own. Who you are to your children will eventually show as they grow up and venture out on their own. Just let love and understanding be the weight of all good things in every season of motherhood.

Happy Mother's Day to all mother's and mother's-to-be around the world!💕

Rashea@LLO2