Life In My 40's for KU Ladies... But It's Not Me/Overcoming Deflection (DecemberEdition)/ Rashea@LLO2 Academy

The truth is no one wants to be blamed for problems. It's easy to blame others for reoccurring issues that are getting worse and not better. It feels better to dump problems on others and feel like we are getting off scott free. 

Deflection or reflection?

But, I am learning in my 40's that problems don't go away just because we blame others for unresolved problems. Problems only get resolved when we stop imploding, figure out workable solutions, manage our frustrations, assess our motivations, be logically reasonable when tackling circumstances, situations and tasks and actually do the work and fix problems properly. We can't keep blaming people who are producing results. It's unhealthy, unprofessional and unfair to do so.

When the same problems continue to reoccur on different days, we must take a step back and assess the root of the problems. Resistance to solving problems only worsens the problems. Running from problems doesn't make them go away just pile up with loads of discouragement, to-dos, frustrations and challenges. 

If the right people approach situations and tasks with the wrong motivations, unreasonable asks or partiality, problems will linger and worsen. If everyone is constantly being pulled in different directions, problems will linger and worsen. If there is no one available to help fix the problems, problems will linger and worsen. 

Fixing problems require maturity. Fixing problems require not only a plan and a reasonable plan but effort, time, patience and focus. Fixing problems require people, individuals and teams who are willing to resolve the problems not blame others who are trying their best to resolve the problems or overlooking those who are given little time and grace to get things back into the proper order. 

I have learned in my 40's to be at peace knowing you did your best, and what did not get resolved is sometimes beyond you. I have, also, learned to take a step back and remove yourself from worsening situations. When things continue to worsen and you aren't present, the problems are beyond you.

Create you some needed space to breathe. Relax, recover and ready yourself for the days ahead. God's grace is sufficient for each day you face. Don't face life without God, this I have learned in my 40's. 

Rashea@LLO2